Part 1. 

A woman is the mother of the nation. The helper of man and the hope of the past, present and future of every born man child after his salvation. She is an irresistible force of nature. It is not good that man should be alone says, God. 

The devil loves the ones who give themselves to be used by him and he hates passionately others who refuse his tenancy or permanent residency. 

There is no other reason why the devil’s interest is so keen than the fact that she goes all out on the path of which side she is pushed to. 

She can make or mar. She can build or destroy. She can gather or scatter. Even Shina Rambo, Oyenusi, Lawrence Anini and other notorious criminals who were the worst nightmares of the law enforcement officials were her toys. 

From Hercules to Achilles up to Samson, the man that she cannot tame is not yet born. Wise men take maximum advantage of this mysterious power of a woman while foolish men toy with it and end up regretting it. 

The real pillars of Jesus ministry were not Peter, James and John. It was Mary Magdalene, Joanna the wife of Chuza, Herod’s Steward and Susanna and many other women who provided for Him from their substance. 

If you dispute this, then where was Peter when Jesus was being arrested and beaten? Whether she is introverted or extroverted, she will use all she has to help you succeed. If you toy with her temperament, it’s to your peril. 

Give her flour, she will turn it into pancakes, meat pie and Poff-Poff. Give her a house and she will turn it into a home. Give her trouble and she will give a hell. 

She is your finest confidant and can also be your worst nightmare. She is like money who takes on the nature of its possessor. A perfect woman does not exist but trust me, she can make you great amongst men whether she is literate or illiterate. 

The respect you give to a woman is not for her sake but for her own sake. Because whatever you dish out to a woman is coming back to you in good measure, pressed down, shaken together and of course running over. 

The multiplayer effect of your interactions and interface with a woman always come back with exponential feedbacks. 

She is the perfect measurement and definition of a man who is FINISHED and the one who is COMPLETE. If you treat her well, you will be complete and if you mess around with her, you are finished. 

She is a book you cannot finish reading. A poem you cannot finish writing. An adventure that has no end. An institution you can never graduate from. Remaining a student of womanhood is the secret of men with successful marriages. 

When you see a man who fell and rose back to greater glory and honour, look carefully, a gentle giant called woman is behind him. 

One million military men may not be able to oust a sitting president from his seat. But if 300 women strip themselves naked and march to the king’s palace, they won’t meet him on the throne. 

We say it’s the men’s world and yet we discovered the pillars behind the men who said so are women. Honour to all women in this world. You are a jewel of inestimable value. 

Part II. 

Most men are not even aware that the face and body statistics of a woman are the least beautiful parts of her. Only a few men know that the real beauty of women is their instinct and their brain pattern. 

Unfortunately, many ladies of today are not aware that beauty is not in the face but in the BRAIN. Hence, they abandoned building brain infrastructure and went up building artificial breast, hips, tummy etc. All these are not sustainable. Whatever goes up must come down. 

Whether she is Moremi or Fumilayo Ransom Kuti. Whether she is Madam Tununbu or Madam Ekpo. Whether is Alhaja Magaji or Nkonjo Nweala. It’s not about western education or native intelligence. There is something called the feminism spirit. It’s a God-given invisible force inherent in every woman. Few wise men in the world who took the adventure and gets to this core area of a woman always come back to rule nations as well as organizations. 

Whether she went to school or not. Whether she is exposed to the socioeconomic world or not. Whether she is urban or primitive. Any one of the above you pick as a wife whom you treat well without prejudice or being belittled, will pray and arrange for you to surely win that contract. You will rule your world. You will stand before kings and you will be respected by the men at the city gate. 

What am saying is that any man that mistakenly or deliberately takes good care of a woman. If you intentionally go out of your way to give her the best care, love, attention and love, you will have laser focus and break all barriers into greatness. You will be unstoppable. 

Let me shock you here….did you know that the greatest need of a woman is not money? I know that sounds untrue but hear me out first. How much do you have in the first place? The man that will meet all the financial needs of a woman does not exist yet. As you build the 1000 units of a housing estate in honour of her, and you named it “VICTORIA GARDEN CITY”…it will shock you as you pass by the jewellery store, your spending continues. And yet that huge vacuum is there because money is not everything. 

That’s why men who think all a woman needs is money always burn out and find themselves frustrated. He ends up saying “with all I have done for you”. What have you done that a little boy to you somewhere can’t do better? Go and sit down my friend!!!!.

The foremost need of a woman is RESPECT. Respect is the umbrella overseeing love, care, intimacy, money, affection and what-have-you. . Because this unpredictable unique creature of God called the woman to have mood swings. The latest Ferrari you just bought for her in which she was dancing around just now may not add up in her attitude in the next minute if enters another gear. 

Few Wise men whom their wives adore do not see how much they spend on them; rather, what counts to them is understanding the present need of the woman. A woman can be so grateful now and swing to another part of her that had forgotten the gift you just brought. 

A hug. Thank you. You are the best. Am here with you. Your battles are mine. Your joy is my number one priority. No shaking (even if you are shaking inside). A path in the back. Are a few of the numerous things she needs. She is like a jigsaw puzzle that you must learn how to fix correctly. 

Small keys open big doors. Giving the right application to a woman in the nick of time goes a long way to heal a woman faster than dolling out money. If money is all she needs. Why do we have most divorces from the rich? 

Yes, money is a defence and offence but leave it there on a stand by. A man who meets a larger percentage of a woman’s emotional and psychological needs will ultimately prosper. 

Part III. 

A woman is not your property so don’t treat her like goods or toys. A woman is not a baby manufacturer so don’t send her to the labour room every year. A woman is not a necessary evil so don’t cast her out like a demon. 

Am 51 and I have lived my life in the world before Christ for 24 years and for 27 years in God’s kingdom. Meaning, I have seen both sides of the two worlds and I can say without any shadow of a doubt that it is good to be born again. 

Meanwhile, I have had very close interactions with girls, ladies and elderly women at very close range. My Mum lost her husband at 38 and she singlehandedly raised 5 boys and 2 girls. I saw her struggles as a primary school teacher and a widow. I saw her lion’s heart yet with chronic asthma making sure none went to bed without food. 

That’s why the only punishment disallowed under my roof is “no food for you today”. I can’t stand it. Given this, let me show you three AWESOME POWER OF A WOMAN. 


We had a twin 3rd of June 2010. The girl came out well but the boy died. In the Sosoliso air crash in 2005, only two girls made it. One of them had a severe 3rd-degree burn yet she made it. 

The muscle of men are outside just like their reproductive organ but that of the woman is inside. A woman can stand by a man in his humble beginnings and help him rise to greatness only for some men to look for another woman when breakthrough has come. 

Never take the quietness and simplicity of a woman as a weakness. Never take the one who is extroverted as a parrot. On both sides, they are tenacious and very enduring. 


When Women Pray, they use the power of their womb. Prophet missed it when he saw Hannah negotiating for Samuel. Women don’t miss the target in prayer. They are the secrets behind all great men in this world. 

Please only let a woman pray for you and not against you. Why is because they won’t stop if the answer has not come. Am sure you still remember that dangerous woman called Anna in Luke:2:36-37…Anna the prophetess was also there, a daughter of Phanuel from the tribe of Asher. She was by now a very old woman. She had been married 7 years and a widow for 84 years. SHE NEVER LEFT THE TEMPLE AREA WORSHIPING NIGHT AND DAY WITH HER FASTINGS AND PRAYERS. 

I saw women doing prayer walk in Lagos, Abuja, Port Harcourt and some other cities and I saw a deadly signal. Let me zip my mouth but history don’t lie. Men may have been shouting for a long time, BUT THE DAY THEIR WOMEN ARISE!!!!!!! 

And I see that happening. I think Nigerian women are ready to tell the leadership they don’t just belong to “THE OTHER ROOM”. They are the mother of the nation. 


Women have deep-seated knowledge of unforeseen events. They sniff danger when it doesn’t look it. She knows her child is in danger even if she is thousands of miles away from him or her. If her brain can’t sense the danger, any other parts can do it. 

There is a Yoruba adage that says “dead mothers don’t sleep in their graves”. Wise men who carry their wives along in business transactions always end up successful.

But virtually all unclaimed monies in the Swiss banks, as well as commercial banks in Nigeria, is as a result of men didn’t carry their wives along not knowing death would come unexpectedly. 

By James Abiona.

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